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29/10/2010

Discussions à propos du livre "La blessure primitive" (The Primal Wound) de Nancy Verrier

"Primal Wound" or "The Blight Man Was Born For"

Over the last week or so , discussions at http://osolomama.wordpress.com have centered around the idea of the “primal wound” (even though that was not the blogger’s plan). The “primal wound” in question is the posited emotional injury done to infants separated from their birth mothers. Those who support this idea believe that such an injury occurs even if the baby is placed with other caregivers at birth, and that the “wound” continues to cause pain all through life, unless it is resolved and healed in some way. Adult adoptees commenting at osolomama and elsewhere have made it very clear that they experience ongoing distress in close relationships, that they feel they have had this experience throughout their lives, and that they attribute their sense of distress to their history of early separation. (I am stating this simply and unemotionally for the sake of brevity, but the adult adoptees tell their stories vividly and with intense emotional engagement.)

CHILDMYTHS, Jean Mercer


Using and Abusing Metaphors: Attachment, Bonding, and Primal Wound

Several posts ago, I referred to ideas like the “Primal Wound” (a posited psychological injury caused by separation of a baby from its birth mother) as metaphors that could be helpful in therapy or in thinking through personal problems. One reader felt insulted by this statement and equated it with saying that proponents of the Primal Wound approach are “stupid”. I certainly didn’t intend to say that, although I think that if they considered the facts of infant development they would be aware that the Primal Wound is a socially constructed concept rather than a “natural kind”. I did mean just what I said-- that thinking metaphorically can be one of our best ways to figure out puzzling and complicated problems.

CHILDMYTHS, Jean Mercer

 

Wond

Op verschilldende Amerikaanse blogs woedt een discussie over het boek "Afgestaan" (The Primal Wound) van Nancy Verrier. Hierin betoogt zij dat er een emotionele verwonding ontstaat als een kind wordt gescheiden van zijn moeder. Net als het boek "Ik ben haar kind" beschrijft het boek indringend wat de gevoelens zijn van (sommige) geadopteerden. Alleen al daarom is het beslist lezenswaardig. Het probleem is de verklaring die Verrier geeft voor die gevoelens. Die draait om de psychoanalytische notie over een natuurlijke band tussen moeder en kind die - indien verbroken - zorgt voor een oerverwonding bij het kind en bij de moeder.

De wereld is van iedereen

 

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Commentaires

The paradigm of "primal wound" was invented Nancy Verrier, and understood as the breaking of the child from its birth mother.

We can not take this view: the "primal wound" means any sexual animal (and therefore every human) lives at birth!

This is the first grief of all people!
Life is also made that a string of mourning that must be closed before you can heal and "re-create" (cf Boris Cyrulnik): "New development after a traumatic crash .. ".

pierre@cliniquedeladoption.eu
www.cliniquedeladoption.eu



Le paradygme de la "blessure primitive" fut inventé Nancy Verrier, et compris comme étant la rupture de l'enfant d'avec sa mère de naissance.

Nous ne pouvons pas suivre ce point de vue : la "blessure primitive", tout annimal sexué (et donc tout humain) vit à sa naissance !

C'est donc le premier deuil de tous!

La vie n'est d'ailleurs faite que d'un chapelet de deuils que l'on doit clore avant de pouvoir en guérir et se "re-créer" (c.f. Boris Cyrulnik) : "néo-développement après un fracas traumatique..."

pierre@cliniquedeladoption.eu
www.cliniquedeladoption.eu

Écrit par : Pierre ROGGEMANS | 08/11/2010